Lessons Learned on Friendship After High School

Friendships can be hard to maintain in general, but what happens after you graduate high school? While facebook, twitter and instagram make it easy to see your friends’ most recent updates; maintaining an actual friendship can be challenging. Here are a few things I have learned  about friendship post graduation.

Priorities change and it’s okay.  I know this all to well, basically after I graduated, I got married and moved away. Now I get how some people can say “well that’s your fault for moving” ,but I can argue that I tried my very best to stay connected with these individuals but to me it felt like I was just an out of sight out of mind deal; so now I don’t even bother. It’s childish to assume that while everyone is headed in their own direction, that all of your friendships will remain the same. You will outgrow certain people and it’s better to just accept things for how they are as opposed to focusing on the past. Getting married, becoming a parent or pursuing a career can all shift a friendship. If you really want maintain being friends then center your attention on building something new.

Friendships aren’t meant to be toxic. If you’re feeling emotionally drained and you’re talking in circles, it’s probably time to cut that rope. It could be your bestie from highschool who just seems to be harboring some sort of resentment towards you and you have no idea why;even after multiple attempts to solve the issue. If her attitude continues to bring you down and you find yourself questioning the authenticity of her actions, then you need to dump her. I say “dump” because ending these types of relationships can be hard, emotional, and you probably try multiple times to rekindle things; but really, you just need to let it go. Don’t allow negative bonds to grow; you don’t want to be friends with anyone who hates to see you happy anyway.

Real friends bicker and get over it. You can’t get along 100 percent of the time because that would mean one of you guys are being (oh man I hate this word) fake. If you can have a disagreement and cordially battle it out without making it a big deal; well then you have got yourself a true friend. You should be able to listen to what's being said and not take it personal, and if it is personal it’s probably something you need to hear that you just don’t want to hear; and if its completely wrong discuss it and move on.

There are different levels of friendship. There are going to be people who you can discuss your life problems with, who you can trust with your deepest feelings; whereas, there are other people whom you may just enjoy being around and just because your relationship isn’t as substantial as some others are, doesn’t mean they aren’t loved just as much. There’s no one friendship that is the same and that’s what makes them all special. While you're crying with one friend and dilly- dallying with another; take time to recognize the roles you play in each other's life and appreciate one another.

Weekend Adventure: A Trip to the Pumpkin Patch

I really cannot get enough of Halloween, as a kid going to the local pumpkin patch was the greatest time ever and tradition. I remember we would go out into the field and pick out our own pumpkin and my mother would help cut it from its vine. Most of the "pumpkin patches" these days pick the pumpkins prior to opening and put them in some sort of pile for you to sort through; some will argue that this way is better, but I am totally opposed. We didn't get to pick from the vine this year in fact we purchased our pumpkins from Walmart; I'm sort of contradicting myself here but have you seen what they are trying to charge you for a medium size pumpkin these days? Well if not, I can tell you that the three we purchased from Walmart didn't even total what one pumpkin would've cost us. Although we bought our pumpkins from the store this year we still wanted to get the whole pumpkin patch (if you can even call it that) experience. 

Last year while going pumpkin patch hunting with a few friends we came upon this place in St. Augustine called Sykes and Coopers Farms ; so it only seemed right to go there this year. We chose to go during the evening this year and it worked out better, we were able to enjoy all of the festivities without sweating. 

He is such a hunk !

 She gets so excited when she sees animals

 I am glad to see she feels the same way about these things as I do. 

We accomplished maze one, went through maze to and somehow ended up back at the entrance of phase one. 

She instantly made a friend that just so happened to be a boy and even gave him a kiss.
 They had a blast running through the corn maze together!

Spooktacular Decor

Oh, how I love me some World Market shopping. I remember when I didn't even know what this store actually was; I thought it was just some random food market, boy was I wrong. I was instantly in love when I walked in it and I vowed to go shopping there at least once a month and for every holiday. So, since Halloween is just around the corner I thought I share some of my terror-rific finds with you.

The boo-tiful (see what I did there) Bride of Frankenstein 

Dia de Los Muertos candlesticks 

Banner for a spooky mantel 

For the scary Apothecary 

"Hoo" will these owls be staring at?

 frightfully adorable table cloth 

What spookilicious treats will you be making with these measuring spoons?

Travel: Fernandina and Our Weekend Wrap Up.

The last few weeks have been quite stressful; so this long weekend (We were lucky and got four days) was thoroughly enjoyed. We did a lot but not much of anything too exciting. We ate out at our favorite sushi restaurant, had dinner at Buffalo Wild Wings with good friends, shared some laughter while watching Neighbors, did some shopping in between all of that and went on a long joy ride which took us to the beautiful town of Fernandina Beach. It's funny because we never would have went there if my husband didn't discover it while on one of his motorcycle rides;so I guess that damn motorcycle is good for something afterall. The drive wasn't too long and the way there was just beautiful; there were islands and a winding road where trees overhung. It was breathtaking. The beach was nice as well, not as crowded and I was surprised to see people actually parked literally on the beach; apparently it's a normal thing to do. Oh my gosh, I almost forgot to mention that on our way out we stopped at this totally random psychic reading place and I had my palm read. I am not into any of that stuff but going there seemed to fit the mood. It was my first time and I am not so sure if she made a believer out of me but I will say some of the things she said were pretty spot on;however I do feel with just a general sense of statistics anyone could have just guessed the stuff she was saying. I suppose I am still a skeptic but I wouldn't be opposed to going somewhere like that again;I like doing things outside of my comfort zone, plus it was funny watching my husband play hard ball with her.

I have a ton of great stuff to share with you guys this month so I hope you keep stopping by.

We found a nice bench to share lunch on.  
Art on a wall. 

My long locks soon to be gone. I am in desperate need of a drastic change. I apologize for the extra bright beach photos, I didn't realize the settings were changed until after we left. 

This gets me VERY excited!

At least some stores are embracing the season.